" While it's fairly common for a woman to marry an older man, the reverse isn't as much of a social norm. Travis and Leah, who have been married close to 20 years, met while attending the same six-week missions organization training."Telling our story never gets old," Leah says, smiling.The problems we were talking through — for example, what if someday our sex drives didn't match up? We were just going to be more proactive about them.
I guess it was because I'd heard two or three stories of the woman being seven years older, so I'd sort of decided that was the outer limit of age difference acceptability. (And I would hit 31 a month before his next birthday.) Feeling defeated, I sat at the small wooden table in Starbucks, where I was meeting Kevin for the first time since my startling discovery. In case you're wondering, I married that guy eight months later.
I don't know why this one year made such a difference to me.
After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!
A question I receive often is, "How did you make the decision to date and marry a younger guy?
At one point, he even confided that it had been his dream to have a wife and family since he was a young teen.
I realized that Kevin was an "old soul," and we were ready for the same things.
She and Paul married anyway, and over time the difference in maturity dissipated. While I don't think it's important to adhere to an arbitrary formula when considering age in a potential relationship (interestingly, when I met Kevin our age difference was exactly this ratio), I think it can be a good rule of thumb to help you consider if your relationship is appropriate.
(A 37 year old dating a 25 year old is different from a 30 year old dating an 18 year old.) I often tell people that Kevin and I met at the perfect time.
"God brought us together, and once we knew that, the other factors didn't really even matter. The couple still serves together in ministry and has two teenage sons.